Sunday, March 27, 2011

A Quiet Sunday

My parents were here for the weekend, they live about two hours north of us, and I always love spending time with them. They have now headed home, and for right now I am enjoying a quiet Sunday afternoon; trying not to feel guilty that I'm ignoring the list of things I needed to do today. I'm blessed to have my parents, they are in their seventies and in great health. I have not told them yet that I will be doing IVF next month and I'm conflicted on rather to tell them or not. Part of me feels like I'm keeping this big secret from them if I don't tell them but part of me feels that I put to much pressure and disappointment on myself if I tell them and it doesn't work out or I miscarry again. It broke my heart all over again when I had to tell my mom last year that I had lost the baby and she would not be a grandma anytime soon. With my brother turning 40 next month and being happy with the bachelors lifestyle for now, I'm really her only hope. No pressure right?

I'm still taking the Synthroid for my thyroid but I really don't feel any different yet. Although it's only been a week. I received a letter in the mail yesterday from my insurance company that they will not be paying for some of my medications for the upcoming IVF. Their reason being that this is for IVF; if I was doing IUI they would cover the medication. If I thought doing IUI would work I would definitely go that route. But after four unsuccessful IUI's it seems that IVF is the best route. What's odd is that they did cover the medication for my first IVF. Did I just get lucky? Tomorrow I will have to call the pharmacy and prepare myself for the bad news when I found out how much all of this medication will cost me.


  1. Hey Sandy! Thanks for the comment on my blog. I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a baby when we did - after the heartbeat - is so hard. I just read through your blog. I know it's a little late in the game, but I have some thoughts that you can take or leave - it's up to you. You mentioned in a previous post that you didn't understand why most docs don't test after one miscarriage. I had an ectopic, and then a miscarriage at 8 1/2 weeks, so technically it was only one miscarriage, but I requested all the miscarriage tests from my doc, and he ran them. This is how they found I have a MTHFR mutation (basically a clotting disorder), which can be treated with aspirin, additional folic acid and Lovenox, a blood thinner. On top of that, I had a free phone consult with Dr. Geoffrey Sher at SIRM, one of the top RE's in the country, and he suggested I get my natural killer cells tested. I did these tests, and found that they were activated, and that could have also caused my miscarriage. So I'm taking intralipids to help calm my immune system.

    I guess my point is you don't have to wait until after another miscarriage to receive miscarriage testing. I know the IVF is coming up close, but it may be worth it to consider some tests prior to moving forward. Beyond any of the emotional aspects (which are there, I know!), I hate to see you pay completely out of pocket for an IVF without some tests which may cause, at the most, about $1K if your insurance doesn't cover them. But the insurance may cover it as well.

    Just some thoughts - please don't feel like you need to take my advice or anything, but I feel compelled to tell you about my experience. Hope this helps, and if you would like to talk on the phone about it, I'm very open. Just email me at, and I'll send you my number. Hope this helps!

  2. Thanks Alex for the advice. I really appreciate it!